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Be Sexcellent

Be SEXcellent

A guide on how to have excellent sex — for students, by students. Whether you’re active now or plan to be in the future, this guide can help you excel at safer, more satisfying sex.

 


Love yo’ self!

Strive to be comfortable in your body and your mind. If that’s hard for you, try practicing self-care through The WELL and Active Minds programs or consider making an appointment with a counselor. Students get up to six free sessions a year at CAPS. They want to help you learn to love yourself!

 

Condoms are our friends

Condoms help protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and pregnancy. You can also use dental dams for oral sex. Get them for free at The WELL. Use one every time you have sex and use a new one each time.

 

Take the test

Get tested for STIs at least once a year. You can go to the Student Health Center, your doctor’s office or other clinics, such as Planned Parenthood. Most tests and very simple and don’t even require a blood sample.

STIs are common, and many different people get them. They say nothing about the person’s character or their worth.

What to do if I test positive?
Don’t freak out. Ask your doctor or provider about treatment and prevention options. All STIs are treatable or curable. If you feel safe doing so, tell your sex partner(s) so they can get tested.

 

Prevent unwanted pregnancy

If you’re not ready for pregnancy, use condoms and another form of birth control like the pill or patch as a back-up. Make an appointment at the Student Health Center or your doctor’s office to find out which one’s best for you.

 

Talk is sexy!

Talk to your sex partner(s) about what you like and don’t like, and how to protect each other from STIs, HIV and pregnancy. You can get tips on how to start the conversation at ashasexualhealth.org.

 

Get the “yes”

Sex starts with one word: Yes! Give and receive consent every time. Ask for the yes and remember: Everyone has a right to change their mind. Sexual conduct without consent or after consent was revoked is sexual assault. Someone can't consent while unconscious, drunk, drugged or being threatened or coerced.

 

Abstinence is fine too

Not everyone has sex. Many people don't for different reasons. Some choose abstinence because it is the safest, most effective way to prevent STIs, HIV and pregnancy. Besides, you can express intimacy in lots of fun ways: hugs, kisses, holding hands, cute or sexy texts, snuggling, dates — the lists goes on.

 


 

Campus resources

Get sexual supplies and support on campus. Most are free!

 

Condom Co-op at The WELL

M–F 8am–5pm
HUB 248

Get free condoms, dental dams, lubrication and more at our take-what-you-need safer sex display. We also have menstrual supplies and lots of information and resources.

 

Student Health Services

Monday–Wednesday and Friday 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Tuesdays, Thursdays 9 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Veitch Student Center

No appointment needed for STI testing. Take the questionnaire online, and then come to the lab when you’re ready. You can make appointments to get pregnancy tests, vaccines, birth control, emergency contraception and more. Most services are free with SHIP.

 

Women’s Resource Center

(951) 827-3337
8 a.m.–5 p.m.
260 Costo Hall

Stop by for free condoms, safety programs, sexual assault and domestic violence support, address gender issues and student leadership opportunities. All genders welcomed.

 

LGBT Resource Center

(951) 827-2267
Fall/Winter/Spring: M-Th, 9am-8pm; F, 9am-6pm
Summer: M-F, 9am-5pm
245 Costo Hall

Stop by for support, education and advocacy regarding sexual orientation and gender identity, as well as FREE lubricated or non-lubricated condoms and other safer sex supplies.

 

Campus Advocacy, Resources and Education (CARE)

(951) 827-6225

CARE advocates provide support, crisis intervention, resources and options for those impacted by sexual violence. CARE services are confidential.

 

Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)

(951) 827-5531
Veitch Student Center, North Wing
8:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m.

Get one-on-one or group counseling for free. Call for an appointment or walk in for urgent needs.

 

Student Affairs Case Management

(951) 827-5000
125 Costo Hall
M–F 8 a.m.–5 p.m.

Student Affairs Case Management assists students dealing with mental health, academic, relationship, food insecurity and other stressful crises.

 


 

Off-campus resources

 

Planned Parenthood

(800) 230-PLAN

If you don’t have UC SHIP, don’t worry. Planned Parenthood accepts many insurance plans and may provide affordable coverage options if you lack insurance. They offer private, confidential STI, HIV and pregnancy testing, emergency contraception, men’s health care, vaccines, general health care and more.

 

TruEvolution

(951) 888-1346
4164 Brockton Ave., Ste. A
Riverside, CA 92501

Dedicated to fighting for LGBT justice and the prevention and elimination of HIV/AIDS. Contact them for free condoms, confidential HIV and Hep C testing, health education, housing assistance, policy advocacy, health insurance enrollment and more.

 


 

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