Be Sexcellent

Be SEXcellent

A guide on how to have excellent sex — for students, by students. Whether you’re active now or plan to be in the future, this guide can help you excel at safer, more satisfying sex.

 


Love yo’ self!

Strive to be comfortable in your body and your mind. If that’s hard for you, try practicing self-care through The WELL and Active Minds programs or consider making an appointment with a counselor. Students get up to six free sessions a year at CAPS. They want to help you learn to love yourself!

 

Condoms are our friends

Condoms help protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and pregnancy. You can also use dental dams for oral sex. Get them for free at The WELL. Use one every time you have sex and use a new one each time.

 

Take the test

Get tested for STIs at least once a year. You can go to the Student Health Center, your doctor’s office or other clinics, such as Planned Parenthood. Most tests and very simple and don’t even require a blood sample.

STIs are common, and many different people get them. They say nothing about the person’s character or their worth.

What to do if I test positive?
Don’t freak out. Ask your doctor or provider about treatment and prevention options. All STIs are treatable or curable. If you feel safe doing so, tell your sex partner(s) so they can get tested.

 

Prevent unwanted pregnancy

If you’re not ready for pregnancy, use condoms and another form of birth control like the pill or patch as a back-up. Make an appointment at the Student Health Center or your doctor’s office to find out which one’s best for you.

 

Talk is sexy!

Talk to your sex partner(s) about what you like and don’t like, and how to protect each other from STIs, HIV and pregnancy. You can get tips on how to start the conversation at ashasexualhealth.org.

 

Get the “yes”

Sex starts with one word: Yes! Give and receive consent every time. Ask for the yes and remember: Everyone has a right to change their mind. Sexual conduct without consent or after consent was revoked is sexual assault. Someone can't consent while unconscious, drunk, drugged or being threatened or coerced.

 

Abstinence is fine too

Not everyone has sex. Many people don't for different reasons. Some choose abstinence because it is the safest, most effective way to prevent STIs, HIV and pregnancy. Besides, you can express intimacy in lots of fun ways: hugs, kisses, holding hands, cute or sexy texts, snuggling, dates — the lists goes on.

 

Be Sexcellent in Time of COVID-19

Practice COVID-19 safety when thinking about having sex. Here are additional tips to consider, from most safe to least safe, in preventing the spread of COVID-19.

1. Skip In-Person Sex- Think masturbation, video calls and phone sex instead.

2. Stay Within Your Household- You can choose to have sex with a person you live with. Remember sex should always be consensual.

3. Keep it to One- If having sex with someone you don't live with, make sure you both are only having sex with each other and following COVID-19 guidelines everyday.

4. Limit, Protect and Test- Having sex with multiple people you don't live with, greatly increases the risk of spreading COVID-19. If you do, try to limit the number of people you have sex with, wear a face covering, avoid kissing and get tested for COVID-19 regularly if possible. 


 

Campus resources

Get sexual supplies and support on campus. Most are free!

 

Condom Co-op at The WELL

COVID-19 Update: Currently closed. Please email thewell@ucr.edu to find out how you can get access to these items

M–F 8am–5pm
HUB 248

Get free condoms, dental dams, lubrication and more at our take-what-you-need safer sex display. We also have menstrual supplies and lots of information and resources.

 

 

Student Health Services

COVID-19 Update: No walk-ins available at this time. Please call 951-827-3031 for more information.

Monday–Wednesday and Friday 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Tuesdays, Thursdays 9 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Veitch Student Center

No appointment needed for STI testing. Take the questionnaire online, and then come to the lab when you’re ready. You can make appointments to get pregnancy tests, vaccines, birth control, emergency contraception and more. Most services are free with SHIP.

 

 

Women’s Resource Center

COVID-19 Update: Currently closed. Please visit wrc.ucr.edu for more information.

(951) 827-3337
8 a.m.–5 p.m.
260 Costo Hall

Stop by for free condoms, safety programs, sexual assault and domestic violence support, address gender issues and student leadership opportunities. All genders welcomed.

 

LGBT Resource Center

COVID-19 Update: Currently Closed. Please visit out.ucr.edu for more information.

(951) 827-2267
Fall/Winter/Spring: M-Th, 9am-8pm; F, 9am-6pm
Summer: M-F, 9am-5pm
245 Costo Hall

Stop by for support, education and advocacy regarding sexual orientation and gender identity, as well as FREE lubricated or non-lubricated condoms and other safer sex supplies.

 

Campus Advocacy, Resources and Education (CARE)

(951) 827-6225

CARE advocates provide support, crisis intervention, resources and options for those impacted by sexual violence. CARE services are confidential.

 

Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)

COVID-19 Update: Currently providing TeleMental health services only. Visit counseling.ucr.edu for more information

(951) 827-5531
Veitch Student Center, North Wing
8:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m.

Get one-on-one or group counseling for free. Call for an appointment or walk in for urgent needs.

 

Student Affairs Case Management

COVID-19 Update: Visit casemanagement.ucr.edu to request an appointment online and get more information

(951) 827-5000
125 Costo Hall
M–F 8 a.m.–5 p.m.

Student Affairs Case Management assists students dealing with mental health, academic, relationship, food insecurity and other stressful crises.

 

Planned Parenthood Generation Action at UCR

ppgaaucr@gmail.com
Instagram @ppga_atucr
 

PPGA at UCR advocates on campus and in the community for reproductive justice and rights. 

 

UCR Wellness Express

COVID-19 Update: SRC is currently closed. Please message @ucrwellnessexpress for more information or contact student health services 951-827-3031 for availability of these items

Student Recreation Center South
Instagram @ucrwellnessexpress

Vending Machine with pregnancy tests, emergency contraceptives, condoms, period products and more available for purchase. 

 


 

Off-campus resources

 

Planned Parenthood

(800) 230-PLAN

If you don’t have UC SHIP, don’t worry. Planned Parenthood accepts many insurance plans and may provide affordable coverage options if you lack insurance. They offer private, confidential STI, HIV and pregnancy testing, emergency contraception, men’s health care, vaccines, general health care and more.

 

TruEvolution

(951) 888-1346
4164 Brockton Ave., Ste. A
Riverside, CA 92501

Dedicated to fighting for LGBT justice and the prevention and elimination of HIV/AIDS. Contact them for free condoms, confidential HIV and Hep C testing, health education, housing assistance, policy advocacy, health insurance enrollment and more.

 


 

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